And it’s important for you to know that the reason God puts restrictions on sex is not because He is a cosmic killjoy who hates to see us having fun. That’s not it. The reason He has restricted it is because sex has a very powerful purpose in life.
The purpose for sex is to
create a supernatural bond
between a husband and wife
that will never be broken.
In line with this,
sex is actually
designed to be addictive!
Sex creates a nuclear-powered desire for a husband to be with his wife. It makes him think about her throughout the day. It makes him eager to be with her. It makes him want to serve her and to love her. And for the woman, it helps her to feel the closeness of their relationship as they become one in the marital act. Sex is the atomic bond that holds a marriage together.
Nuclear radiation can be a good thing or it can be a bad thing. It can be good when it is used in a controlled environment for a specific purpose. It can be used to provide energy to a city, heal a person from a disease, or to heat a cup of coffee in sixty seconds.
But when nuclear radiation leaks from a controlled setting, it can become very dangerous and even disastrous. Think Chernobyl.
This is similar to the power and danger of human sexuality. When it is enjoyed within the boundaries of God’s plan, it can be a beautiful, joyful thing. But when that sexual energy is allowed to leak into inappropriate areas of life, then that can bring disaster.
When a man and woman become sexually active, there is literally a chemical that washes across their brains that is similar to the rush that is brought on by drugs like heroin. This is a very powerful experience, indeed. And this is intended to be an addictive bond between a husband and wife.
But this becomes a problem when people who are not married become sexually active. This “rush” often impairs their judgment, and they become bonded to a person who may or may not be a good partner for life. When they are in the middle of all of this, they can easily overlook serious character flaws that would have made them run had they not been involved sexually. The physical union causes them to overlook all of those warning flags that are flapping conspicuously all around them.
How many times have you seen a decent girl who continually goes back to a guy who is a mess . . . over and over again? And we shake our heads and wonder, “What does she see in him? Why does she stay with that guy?” Well, it’s often because she has created metaphysical bond with him that is addictive and nearly impossible to dissolve. This is one good reason why God says we should save sex for marriage.
Another example of how this plays out in real life is when a guy stumbles into pornography. Through that surge of chemicals in his brain, it becomes addictive like heroin. And when a married man expends his sexual energy on the vile filth of porn, he then has less energy to direct toward his wife in what should be the appropriate expression of his love. With such depleted energy toward his wife, their marriage then begins to crack and crumble as well. An inappropriate focus of sexual energy can be devastating to a marriage.
God wants husbands and wives to be addicted to one another for life. Let’s trust in God’s plan and allow that to be our guide to ultimate fulfillment.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.
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